"In Seeking Perfect Intimacy... "

As we are joyously joined in the blessings of Holy Union before Elohei Tehillati (The G-d of my praise) and before the loving company of friends and family, beings the joy of coming to discover the truth of the bond of intimacy which strengthens and is forged into a reckoning force. Married couples joyously celebrate their Union with love on their honeymoon and from that perfect moment and onward, both the pleasure and intimacy grow in bond beyond imagination.

Understanding Intimacy: Beyond Physical Connection, Embracing Shared Vulnerabilities and Joy.

s a unified couple finds grace by Elohim’s (G-d's) blessings, each pursue one another other through intimate service, sacrifice, and struggle; Elohim (G-d) blesses them in a way the world around them can never know. Lovemaking is more than just erotic pleasure; it is a soul-knitting intimacy that deepens with time. Know that by continually neglecting the principles of true intimacy in love making, we are settling for flashes of sinful lustful coveting passion instead of the valuable white-hot coals of enduring intimacy which is a great gift bestowed by Elohim Himself for all those who trust in Ha’ Moshiach (The Anointed One).

In the saddened state of society as a whole portrays pleasure as flash-in-the-pan passion that moves from lover to lover and fantasy to fantasy. However, does this sort of pleasure truly fulfill us or aid in our compoleteness? Some might say it actually deepens our discontentment and cause us callousness of the heart? Is one who clicks on one pornographic picture and stops, satisfied? This may be viewewd as looking at a photo of a perfectly prepared steak; you can look at that steak as long as you wish, but the fact will remain, you will still hunger. They who fantasize for a few seconds and stops, do they find themselvesd satisfied?

The inticing tempations this worlds earthly pleasure cannot satisfy a heart which was created for a much deeper, lasting and loving intimate pleasure; in and out of the bedroom. In our sin is provided the sort of pleasure a parched man feels when he sees a mirage of water. He feels a thrill of hope, yet in the end disappointment only amplifies the emptiness. Elohim uses vivid imagery to communicate that He intends couples to be unified and united within Him to deeply enjoy true and unforced intimacy with one another.

Intimate acts are a great gift from a good Heavenly Creator who delights in our joy. Elohim intended the design of physical intimacy to be best enjoyed when it is based on something other than mere lustful attraction to appearance or performance. That doesn’t mean intimacy is always enjoyable or easy for married couples. Marriage is the union of an ever-changing and ever-growing pair of fallen people who bring one another to rise; we can expect true physical intimacy to have both sweet and sour days and easons.

That is part of Elohim’s wise design. He has called couples through Holy Union to be committed to each other and to make love with each other during every season of life. Lovemaking on a honeymoon may be wonderful or awful. Intimate times are shared when buying a new house or burying a parent, intimacy is made stronger in each and every joint decision. Elohim Is Better Than Sex; Elohim ordains lovemaking for couples whether richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, when life is better or worse.... until death do us part, because it reflects His enduring love for us, and I built within the intimacy with one another, comes our more appreciative enduring love of Elohim.

We may certainly discover a much greater depth of pleasure as we laugh and cry and pray and trust and weep and mourn and hope together. A couples physical intimacy is more than just an erotic pleasure; it is the joining and bonding of two grateful souls which deepens with time. Elohim designed this deep and spiritual soul-level intimacy to reflect the deep, intimate, committed and faithful servant’s heartfelt commitment between Yehoshua and His bride, the body of the Church, the worshiping faithful.

The goal of physical intimacy isn’t ultimately just enjoying your spouse, but it is enjoying and celebrating Elohim as the giver of good gifts. Elohim is far more satisfying than the best animalistic lustful sex. We know this because for all of eternity we will live in a new heaven and new earth better than this one, a world in which we will not experience marriage or physical intimacy as we do now, but we will have a better and lasting pleasure with Elohim (Matityahu/Matthew 22:30; Tehillim/Psalm 16; Yeshayahu/Isaiah 51:11; Hhazon/Revelation 21–22).

Wisdom for the Married;

Trust in Elohim even when intimacy is absent. At times, physical intimacy may seem stagnant or nonexistent. be not discouraged, pray together. Press past the awkwardness and pain. Confess and heal the bitterness. Permit Elohim to help you.

“G-d is better than the best sex.” Please do not hear me saying that if you just trust Elohim and obey him, all your sexual struggles will vanish. That isn’t true. What I am saying is that true pleasure comes from receiving what Elohim has given us by faith, and trusting that He is good, and intends it for our good (“Then shall I not be ashamed, when I have respect unto all thy commandments.” {Psalm 119:6}).

True pleasure is not found finally in having an amazing sex life, but rather is found in the amazing Elohim. Bring your sexual satisfaction and sexual dysfunction to Y’shua, because that is the ultimate goal of love, the goal of it all: to bring you closer to Him.

Effective communication enduces intimacy to become more intimate. Simply making love in days of joy and sorrow won’t bring you closer to your spouse. Intimacy is cultivated through communication. Have regular conversations about how things are going in this area and how you can serve each other better. Talking honestly and listening to each other about intimate issues is part of Elohim’s plan to draw you closer together.

Contentment in physical intimacy comes from delighting in Elohim and the great gifts and blessings afforded us. You could have the best spouse on the planet and enjoy the most fulfilling intimate contact imaginable, and still this fact remains: if our hearts are not satisfied in Elohim, we shall never realize true satisfaction. The joy of intamacy is always found in the joy of your spouce. Spouses can be wonderful helpers, but they are sorry saviors, for they too, as fallible as we are. The best way to have a blessed and satisfying physically intimate life is to delight in Elohim who gives the gift. Yehoshua is greatly far greater than any gift He gives you, including through the heights of physical intimacy in marriage.

To the Yet Unmarried;

Don’t settle for counterfeit pleasures. Darkness and tempation shall provide many opportunities to satisfy your sexual frustration. However, the fleeting flames of names people engaging in sex on your screen or a string of emptyand hollow flings of premarital sex, they end up stealing the very pleasure you greatly seek. We must realize it feels crazy to resist, especially when no end is in sight, but only Elohim promises to help you. By clinging to Him in the battle, you will find the truer joy that meaningless sexual temptations could never provide.

Protect your future marriage thtrough sound choices now. Marriage is tough enough as it is. However, if you fill your heart with sexual yearning and experiences, you set yourself and your future spouse up for unnecessary added difficulty. If Elohim sees fit to provide you a spouse, that person will be what you really need. Filling your heart with unrealistic or unfair expectations which never ceased to disappoint, can end up hindering the true intimacy Elohim has for you in the future. Energy filled physical intimacy with your spouse is Elohim's blessed gift to be form a bond within the Union that it strengthens over time.”

Seek and forge contentment in Elohim today. Remember that your fulfillment as a spiritual person is not dependent on being sexually or romantically fulfilled. Yehoshua was the most fully and complete person who has ever lived. Now you might think, Yeah, thanks, but I’m not Yehoshua. Understood, but please hear this: sexual pleasure will never ultimately satisfy you, it creates a momentaryand fleeting sensation of satisfaction. A wonderful spouse will never fulfill you alone. Neither physical intimacy with your spouse cannot do what only Elohim can. Seek to be satisfied in Him, and if He provides the blessing of a spouse, you’ll be free to enjoy him or her all the more.

Open your Heart before Elohim fully; display your intent of commitment both before Him and to Him. If you can’t establish an intimate relationship with Ha’ Moshiach, Yehoshua, how could we possiblly expect to do so on our own or with another?

Bring you open heart to be filled in His love, permit Rauch Ha' Chodesh (Holy Spirit) to permeate every fiber of your being. The more joyful we find ourselves in Elohim, the greater the joy we may share intimately with our spouse,

Pastor Mark